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Finding the G-spot
https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/where-is-the-g-spot-everything-you-need-to-know-about-the-elusive-way-to-make-women-orgasm_uk_59c4ff6de4b0cdc773309743
Women’s magazines have been heralding the G-spot as the key to female orgasms for years, but it seems Brits are still struggling to find it.
Research from Durex identified “where is the G-spot?” as the most googled question relating to sex among adults aged 18-65. In addition, the survey found more than a third (34%) of 18-24 year olds don’t feel confident talking about sex, meaning they’re often turning to the internet for answers.
With that in mind, we spoke to four sex experts to finally get to the bottom of it.
According to Durex sex expert Alix Fox, G-spot is short for “Gräfenberg spot”, and named after a German gynaecologist who first wrote about it in the 1950s.
“Scientists argue about whether the G-spot exists as a true anatomical structure: plenty now think that what is being described may actually be an internal part of the clitoris, while others reckon it’s simply a place that feels particularly sexually sensitive to lots women,” she told HuffPost UK.
“What we do know for sure is that stimulating this zone can feel great, and may lead to deep, delicious orgasms.”
Annabelle Knight, sex and relationship expert at Lovehoney, is among those who contest the G-spot is most certainly real.
“There have been studies questioning its existence but these have been largely discredited. Not every woman has a G-spot but around 60% do,” she told HuffPost UK.
While the G-spot is often spoken about as the key to helping a woman orgasm, Samantha Evans, owner of sex toy retailer Jo Divine, said this is not the only result it can have.
“When stimulated you may feel as if you need to pee, which is why some women shy away from this sensation believing they want to urinate,” she told HuffPost UK.
“This is also the sensation you feel before you ejaculate too. Some women ejaculate from G-spot play and this can enhance the experience. Ejaculate comes from the paraurethral glands, which sit inside the spongy tissues surrounding the urethra.”
Where is the G-spot?
The jury is well and truly out when it comes to locating the G-spot, although the experts we spoke to agreed that women tend to feel additional sensitivity on the front vaginal wall (the side closest to your tummy).
Sex and relationships expert Tracey Cox said the G-spot is “supposedly between 5-8 cm, (2-3 inches) inside the vagina, on the front or upper wall”.
“The area protrudes slightly but only when the glands surrounding the urethral tube have become swollen,” she told HuffPost UK.
However, she stressed that this sensitive area will vary in location from woman to woman.
Knight suggested it may be easier for a woman to try to locate her G-spot herself before attempting to stimulate it with a partner.
“It is easiest to locate if a woman lies on her back and inserts her middle finger into the vagina,” she said.
“The G-spot is on the top wall of the vagina halfway between the vagina opening and the cervix. The spot should feel a little rough, almost like the surface of a walnut.”
PERSONAL EXPERIENCE - In an excited, well-lubricated female place two fingers in the vagina. Curve them up toward her belly button. You will fill a dime size area on the wall of the vagina that has a rougher or bumpy texture. Press and rub there. She may request three fingers.
According to Cox, your partner is better off aiming to stimulate the whole of the vaginal wall, rather than searching for an elusive pleasure button which may or may not exist.
“The classic ‘G-move’ is for your partner to insert and curve their fingers, making a ‘come here’ motion,” she explained.
Knight added that some men have a slight curve in their penis when erect and this can help when attempting to stimulate the front vaginal wall.
“Women can use that curve to their advantage by angling the sex position so his penis is hitting up against the G-spot during penetration,” she said.
“If he has a straight penis, there are sex positions women can use during intercourse to maximise the chances of G-spot stimulation.
“The Butterly is a good one. You sit on a table while he enters you standing up. He places his hands under your hips so he can hold you close while he thrusts. This position should put his penis right in line with the G-spot.”
Evans said one of the best ways to stimulate the front vaginal wall is by using a curved sex toy - and you don’t have to wait for a partner.
“Try it throughout the month as hormonal changes in your body can impact upon your level of sensitivity and arousal,” she said.
“Give yourself a vulva/anal massage first and when you’re feeling aroused enough or after an orgasm, insert your index finger inside the vagina and curve it to a ‘come hither’ motion so that you are stroking the upper wall.
“Aim for 1-2 inches inside, along the upper wall and press firmly – the G-spot or area feels slightly ridged and responds to firmer pressure than the clitoris.
“Move your finger around and experiment with different types of touch. Try to visualise moving the tissue and notice how the muscle tone varies.”
All of our experts highlighted that regardless of whether the G-spot is an exact button or just a sensitive area, paying it too much attention can actually have a negative effect on your sex life.
As Evans said: “Don’t fixate on having a G-Spot orgasm, just enjoy all the pleasurable sexual sensations.
“Whether people believe the G-Spot exists or not doesn’t really matter. What matters is that you enjoy incredible sexual pleasure.”
Women’s magazines have been heralding the G-spot as the key to female orgasms for years, but it seems Brits are still struggling to find it.
Research from Durex identified “where is the G-spot?” as the most googled question relating to sex among adults aged 18-65. In addition, the survey found more than a third (34%) of 18-24 year olds don’t feel confident talking about sex, meaning they’re often turning to the internet for answers.
With that in mind, we spoke to four sex experts to finally get to the bottom of it.
According to Durex sex expert Alix Fox, G-spot is short for “Gräfenberg spot”, and named after a German gynaecologist who first wrote about it in the 1950s.
“Scientists argue about whether the G-spot exists as a true anatomical structure: plenty now think that what is being described may actually be an internal part of the clitoris, while others reckon it’s simply a place that feels particularly sexually sensitive to lots women,” she told HuffPost UK.
“What we do know for sure is that stimulating this zone can feel great, and may lead to deep, delicious orgasms.”
Annabelle Knight, sex and relationship expert at Lovehoney, is among those who contest the G-spot is most certainly real.
“There have been studies questioning its existence but these have been largely discredited. Not every woman has a G-spot but around 60% do,” she told HuffPost UK.
While the G-spot is often spoken about as the key to helping a woman orgasm, Samantha Evans, owner of sex toy retailer Jo Divine, said this is not the only result it can have.
“When stimulated you may feel as if you need to pee, which is why some women shy away from this sensation believing they want to urinate,” she told HuffPost UK.
“This is also the sensation you feel before you ejaculate too. Some women ejaculate from G-spot play and this can enhance the experience. Ejaculate comes from the paraurethral glands, which sit inside the spongy tissues surrounding the urethra.”
Where is the G-spot?
The jury is well and truly out when it comes to locating the G-spot, although the experts we spoke to agreed that women tend to feel additional sensitivity on the front vaginal wall (the side closest to your tummy).
Sex and relationships expert Tracey Cox said the G-spot is “supposedly between 5-8 cm, (2-3 inches) inside the vagina, on the front or upper wall”.
“The area protrudes slightly but only when the glands surrounding the urethral tube have become swollen,” she told HuffPost UK.
However, she stressed that this sensitive area will vary in location from woman to woman.
Knight suggested it may be easier for a woman to try to locate her G-spot herself before attempting to stimulate it with a partner.
“It is easiest to locate if a woman lies on her back and inserts her middle finger into the vagina,” she said.
“The G-spot is on the top wall of the vagina halfway between the vagina opening and the cervix. The spot should feel a little rough, almost like the surface of a walnut.”
PERSONAL EXPERIENCE - In an excited, well-lubricated female place two fingers in the vagina. Curve them up toward her belly button. You will fill a dime size area on the wall of the vagina that has a rougher or bumpy texture. Press and rub there. She may request three fingers.
According to Cox, your partner is better off aiming to stimulate the whole of the vaginal wall, rather than searching for an elusive pleasure button which may or may not exist.
“The classic ‘G-move’ is for your partner to insert and curve their fingers, making a ‘come here’ motion,” she explained.
Knight added that some men have a slight curve in their penis when erect and this can help when attempting to stimulate the front vaginal wall.
“Women can use that curve to their advantage by angling the sex position so his penis is hitting up against the G-spot during penetration,” she said.
“If he has a straight penis, there are sex positions women can use during intercourse to maximise the chances of G-spot stimulation.
“The Butterly is a good one. You sit on a table while he enters you standing up. He places his hands under your hips so he can hold you close while he thrusts. This position should put his penis right in line with the G-spot.”
“Try it throughout the month as hormonal changes in your body can impact upon your level of sensitivity and arousal,” she said.
“Give yourself a vulva/anal massage first and when you’re feeling aroused enough or after an orgasm, insert your index finger inside the vagina and curve it to a ‘come hither’ motion so that you are stroking the upper wall.
“Aim for 1-2 inches inside, along the upper wall and press firmly – the G-spot or area feels slightly ridged and responds to firmer pressure than the clitoris.
“Move your finger around and experiment with different types of touch. Try to visualise moving the tissue and notice how the muscle tone varies.”
All of our experts highlighted that regardless of whether the G-spot is an exact button or just a sensitive area, paying it too much attention can actually have a negative effect on your sex life.
As Evans said: “Don’t fixate on having a G-Spot orgasm, just enjoy all the pleasurable sexual sensations.
“Whether people believe the G-Spot exists or not doesn’t really matter. What matters is that you enjoy incredible sexual pleasure.”
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What to know about female multiple orgasms
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/how-many-times-can-a-woman-come-in-a-row
An orgasm is a powerful feeling of pleasure. Some people can experience multiple orgasms. Anecdotal evidence suggests females can achieve as many as 20 orgasms in a row during sex.
According to the International Society for Sexual Medicine, most women can achieve multiple orgasms, but estimates of the number who do vary. A 2016 study reports that 8% of women said it was “easy” to have multiple orgasms. Designing well-controlled studies of orgasms is difficult, and counting the number of orgasms people have is even more challenging. As a result, there is no scientifically accepted limit on the number of orgasms a female can have. However, in theory, there is no limit. This article defines what multiple orgasms are, the different types of orgasms, and techniques to achieve multiple orgasms.
Multiple orgasm definition
A person has multiple orgasms when they have several orgasms very close together. Some people who have multiple orgasms report having orgasms back-to-back, with just seconds between each. Others have an orgasm, experience a decline in arousal, become aroused again within minutes, and have another orgasm soon after. One study suggests that 12% of women in Finland reported multiple orgasms during their last sexual experience. These figures remained similar in multiple groups of women surveyed in 1999, 2007, and 2015. A 2017 online survey of 1,250 women in the United Kingdom found that 70% reported experiencing multiple orgasms at least once.
Refractory period
The refractory period is the time following orgasm when a person is no longer sexually responsive. In males, the refractory period makes it impossible to become physically aroused. However, although females may lose interest in sex, they are usually physically capable of engaging in sexual activity again. A 2009 study suggests that women may experience a physiological refractory period. Out of 174 females, 96% reported that the clitoris became too sensitive to continue sexual activity. So while still physically possible, sex became less appealing and possibly painful. The refractory period, particularly a long one, may affect a person’s ability to have multiple orgasms. However, most research into refractory periods focuses on males, so researchers need to conduct more studies into this from the female perspective.
Ejaculation vs. orgasm
Though many people report witnessing female ejaculation, researchers continue to debate the concept. Some insist that female ejaculate is urine, while others say it is a different fluid that comes from an organ equivalent to the male prostate. There is no scientific consensus on female ejaculation, its causes, and whether any specific factors increase its likelihood. One online survey states that 40% of women reported ejaculating at least once. Female ejaculation is not common, and most females do not ejaculate when they orgasm. In some cases, an individual may ejaculate without first having an orgasm. The International Society for Sexual Medicine reports that ejaculation may be more common during G-spot stimulation.
Multiple vs. stacked orgasms
Multiple orgasms happen when a person orgasms, comes down from the orgasm and returns to a less stimulated state before having another orgasm. Essentially, it means they have multiple separate orgasms a few minutes apart. A stacked orgasm aims to prevent a person from fully climaxing so that they experience a wave of orgasms and remain in an orgasmic state for much longer.
Techniques to try for multiple orgasms
No single technique works for all people. While anecdotal evidence may support specific strategies, the most important technique for achieving multiple orgasms is communication. Talking about what feels good, what works, and how close a person is to orgasm can make each orgasm more pleasurable.
Some strategies to consider include:
Focus on clitoral stimulation: According to an online survey, most females require clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm.
Slow down and have sex longer: This can accommodate a refractory period while increasing the chances of multiple orgasms. A 2016 studyTrusted Source suggests that sex lasting longer than 15 minutes increases the chances of multiple orgasms.
Incorporate different types of sexual stimulation: Intercourse is not the only way to have sex and achieve orgasm.
Masturbation: Many females learn how to have multiple orgasms from masturbation. According to a 2018 article, most women can also orgasm more quickly from masturbation.
Slow or change stimulation: This may help the orgasm last longer, resulting in a stacked orgasm.
Use sex toys: One study found that about half of women who incorporate toys into intercourse have multiple orgasms.
Benefits
The main benefit of multiple orgasms is that they feel good. They can also promote intimacy in a relationship. A healthy sex life offers many health benefits, including:
stress relief
lower risk of heart health issues, such as high blood pressure
improved self-esteem
better immune health
better sleep
reductions in anxiety and depression
Risks
There are no risks associated with orgasms, nor with multiple orgasms. However, the specific techniques a person uses to reach orgasm may present some risks. People with certain health conditions may need to be cautious when having sex. For example, aggressive stimulation may irritate the skin or even cause bruising and other injuries. Johns Hopkins Medicine note that people with untreated heart disease may have a heart attack during exertion, such as having sex, but this is very rare. However, people with a history of chest pain or feeling winded should see a doctor before having sex or trying to have multiple orgasms. As with any sexual encounter, people should use birth control, have regular testing for sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), and ensure they have consent. Some people might feel pressure to have multiple orgasms, especially if they have had them before, which may make the experience uncomfortable.
Summary
Every female is different, and so too is every sexual interaction and potential for orgasm. Currently, nobody knows how many orgasms a female can have during one sexual experience. Most females can achieve multiple orgasms. Although those with a history of multiple orgasms may be more likely to continue having them, they are unpredictable. Clear and compassionate communication with a partner about desires and what feels good is important for achieving multiple orgasms. This can increase the odds of orgasm and pleasure each time they have sex. People can find the most effective way for them to achieve multiple orgasms by practicing different techniques and strategies.
- - - Last medically reviewed on August 17, 2020
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